The frump facing me in the mirror gently whispered “it is time to revamp your style!” For the past two years I had not spent much time looking in the mirror or considering anything more than comfort. It started with a manicure, sporting long tailored nails. For a woman, we can look down at our toes and see them pedicured, and we can look down at our hands and find them elegant and attractive, but we get hyper critical of the lines we see around our faces, neck and chin! It was also time for a new “do”, something fun, sharp, easy, yet edgy! I read a brief biography by Audrey Hepburn’s son and he informed the world that Audrey was simple, that she had a few elegant plain black dresses, a string of pearls, a bulky sweater, and jeans. She was indeed the first Hollywood minimalist!
Staring into my closet collection of bohemian choices, I began to consider who I was, and who I am. I am a mother, a grand-mother, a wife and a woman who has always loved fashion. In my youth I dressed in a pen striped suit and wore my hair slicked back in a ponytail with red lipstick. I also wore mini-skirts and long 60’s hair, bell bottoms and false eye lashes. I’ve been a redhead, a brunette, and then and for years now, a blonde. After much thought it occured to me that I prefer solid colors, black, white, red and the classic look of a double breasted blazer with perhaps a chunky necklace, or pearls. On February 3, 2018 I posted a few current pictures of me in a new closed group that I joined on Facebook: “Hola all you beautiful women! After getting my nails done and hair styled…I confess I am just emerging from a 2 year funk. Accessories accent my non brooding mood as I get back into caring what I look like. A common journey of a mom losing a child. My 46 year old, only child died in 2016 and today, looking in the mirror, I know my MOJO is coming back cuz I can hear my son’s voice sayin ‘that’s my momma, don’t she look great!” To my pleasant surprise comments of support and encouragement began pouring in from around the globe. At least 5 other mother’s who had lost their children chimed in with sweet words of comfort and hope. The founder of this closed group “Linda Waldon” wrote on her website “This is for you if…..YOUR APPEARANCE IS LIMITING YOUR LIFE. You’re a go-getter, but lately you don’t feel like getting up and going anywhere because you don’t have anything to wear. You want to feel like you used to in your clothes – put-together, playful, chic – but your body has changed so much that now you don’t know what to wear! YOU FEEL LIKE YOU’VE LOST YOUR CONFIDENCE. Since menopause kicked in you don’t like what’s happening to your body. You’re eating the same food, exercising the same way, but your middle just keeps growing. It’s frustrating
because you still feel 100% confident on the inside, you just don’t feel confident on the outside. YOU’RE LIVING IN WHAT I CALL “THE LAND OF FRUMP-A-DUMP.” This is a place where everything is loose and baggy, nothing is tailored, there are no beautiful colors. It’s a land of spandex and polyester. Enough is enough! You want your style mojo
back! YOUR CLOSET LOOKS LIKE A MUSEUM. You have all these beautiful clothes from the past, but nothing fits you the same way, and you need to create a wardrobe that fits your lifestyle and fits your body today. YOU LOVE TO LOOK STYLISH, BUT YOU ARE LOST RIGHT NOW. You used to be so stylish and chic. Now you just need a little nudge and some sound style advice to get back on track.” Over 10,000 female members, women who I will never meet, women of whom I have no attachment to, these lovely ladies, all over 50 years… post fashion items, give honest advice and seek honest opinions while unabashedly posting the thrill of a new outfit! It has been so refreshing, so inspiring to play “dress up” once more! Truly, we are so lucky to be female, and to change the way saunter through life with a new “do” a new “charm” and more “poise” because of how we reflect on the outside, how we are feeling on the inside! We are amazing, we are creative, we are uniquely designed by God and He is well please when we are dressing up and feeling our best! SUGGESTION: Lavish yourself with a long hot bath/shower, look online at fashion and hairstyles, then go shopping in your own closet and pull out something that you have never worn, or that you are waiting to wear to some special occasion. Turn up your favorite music and vamp about by yourself in your favorite finest. Put that fake fur on, that red lipstick and kick up your heels in gratitude that you are a rock star in your own unique way! Gain Clarity on what looks great on you! 1) Decide what you LOVE to wear! 2) Clean out your closet, your drawers, those shoes! 3) Look in the mirror and stick to the colors that fit your unique style! 4) Do NOT buy it because it is on sale, do NOT buy it because it is a new fashion, do NOT wear it ever again if you don’t feel your best in it. 5) Give away all items that do NOT pass steps 1-4 and minimize your choices to ONLY favorites that make your striking!